We know that some kids choose not to engage in dangerous behavior years ahead of time. But some don't. That might be you. You might find yourself on a Friday night, out with friends, in a situation where the choice isn't so clear. So we're here to provide you with some ways to make that choice easier. We're going to give you some tools to combat peer pressure, to step out from the rest. Sometimes it's not easy to say no thanks. It may become easier with some great examples of others who have and to find support if you might have a problem with drinking.
How to say no
If someone is pressuring you to do anything that's not right or good for you, you have the right to resist. You have the right to say no, the right not to give a reason why, and the right to just walk away from a situation.
Resisting pressure can be hard for some people. Why?
-are afraid of being rejected by others
-wait to be liked and don’t want to lose a friend
-don’t want to be made fun of
-don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings
-aren’t sure of what they really want
-don’t know how to get out of the situation
Sometimes resisting isn’t easy, but you can do it with practice and a little know-how. Keep trying, even if you don’t get it right at first. To get started, check out Quick Tips.
Quick Tips: You can resist alcohol or anything else you may feel pressured into. These tips will make resisting a little easier. Print it, cut it out, and stash it somewhere safe where you can peek at it if you need a refresher.
How to stop drinking, when friends urge you to?
It is not good if friends put you under pressure or if you feel pressure to drink. Drinking alcohol is a choice, and it is your choice not to do it. Your friends should respect that. Friends who want the best for you will respect your opinion and what you do. If they don't, you should ask yourself if they are such good friends, and if you want to be friends with them. It is important to know the reasons why you don't want to drink or at least not so much.
I don't like it, I would rather have a soft drink.
I just enjoy things more when I'm sober.
My evening is nicer without intoxication.
I don't need alcohol to get happy.
I want to stay clear.
I have to drive home.
I do sports, and alcohol is bad for my condition.
I want to be fit tomorrow.
You can also try a joke or a white lie, like:
I can't stand it. I get sick.
It gives me a bad humour.
I made a bet not to drink.
This 4-question self-test may help you become aware of your use of abuse of alcohol. This test specifically focuses on alcohol use. The questions refer to your feelings and behavior over your whole life. Carefully read each statement and decide whether your answer is yes or no. Please give the answer that reflects what is true most of the time.
1. Have you ever felt you should cut down on your drinking?
2. Have people ever annoyed you by criticizing your drinking?
3. Have you ever felt bad or guilty about your drinking?
4. Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning to steady your nerves or get rid of a hangover (eye-opener)?
If your have answered yes to two or more of these questions, you may want to consider seeking additional help.
How to Determine If You are Addicted to Alcohol
To be able to determine whether someone is dependent or addicted to alcohol, this person must fulfill certain conditions that have been determined by the World Health Organization (WHO), amongst others.
The following are conditions for alcohol addiction (you don't have to fulfill all of these conditions):
Tolerance (need more alcohol to still feel the effect).
Psychological dependence (have a desire for alcohol, varying from very little to very much).
Withdrawal symptoms (get all kinds of physical reactions after you stop).
Use alcohol to reduce the withdrawal symptoms.
Failed attempts to control the alcohol use.
Spend a great deal of time on the use of alcohol or on the recovery of its use.
Damaging effects due to the use on the person itself and its surroundings (problems at work or school, arguments with the people around the addict, dedicate less time to hobbies, illnesses).
Use alcohol more frequently and in higher doses than planned.
Continue to use alcohol even if you know it is damaging for you.
When clients go to a treatment center, the first thing that will be found out is the severity of the addiction. The EuropASI (Addiction Severity Index) is a test that is used by many institutions to determine the alcohol use and the other problems. You can also find many tests on the Internet.
Addiction treatment can help a drug or alcohol addict recover from a life of chemical dependency and return to a substance-free lifestyle. Getting prompt treatment for your addiction is essential because long-term drug and alcohol use can have serious health effects.
If you or someone you know needs help breaking free from the chains of addiction, fill out our short contact form or call (1-800-928-9139) for more information on your options for getting help.
Signals and Signs Indicating a Need for Treatment:
A loss of control over drug or alcohol use, including using the substance at work or school
Extreme cravings for the substance when deprived of it
Preoccupation with the substance and loss of interest in other things, including hobbies, family, friends, and social activities
Spending large amounts of money or time on the substance
Participating in illegal activity in order to obtain the substance
Participating in unsafe activities while high or drunk, such as risky sexual behavior or driving under the influence
Repeatedly trying to quit using drugs or alcohol without success